Thursday, January 8, 2009


For a long time, I wondered if I was good enough when it comes to relationships. I wondered if I was fun or exciting or cute enough to be in X, Y, or Z's life. I tried so hard to figure out if I was or wasn't. Either way, I always decided to try harder to convince the alphabet love that I was.

But recently I decided to rethink that thought. I started wondering if they were good enough to be in mine. I wondered if they were worthy enough for my precious gifts. Could they appreciate my offerings?

I came up with a series of questions to think about when assessing a new letter love.

Are you worth the gold of my heart?
Are you worth the diamonds of my love?
Do you deserve the silver of my trust?
Do you deserve the rubies of my attention?
Will you appreciate the sapphire of my honesty?
Will you appreciate the emeralds of my essence?

When I talk about assessing, I'm talking about seeing how X, Y, or Z treats others. For if they treat others poorly, they'll eventually get around to doing the same with you. I'm talking about really seeing if someone will treat me with the respect and love that everyone should have and deserves.

I'm not talking about being conceited or vain like I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread. If they want to treat my diamonds, gold, and emeralds like glass, pyrite (Fool's Gold), and rhinestones, then they won't appreciate the Tiffany box of me.

So wear your jeweled crown of self-worth, your shiny necklace of having the best, and your regal robe of self-love. Sit on your throne of what life has to offer. For you are the queen of YOUR castle, and only those worthy of sitting on the throne by your side should receive your gems.


Deshara said...

I love this analogy. Pyrite..LOL. Even if you were pyrite they should polish and cherish you like gold and put some real diamonds on you!!

VADRMGRL said...

Yes, polish and cherish are good things. As long as they don't try to tarnish you!

Cara said...

I love reading your blog! I'm going to try to take this post to heart... I'm not quite there yet, but I know that I need to get there.

VADRMGRL said...

That's right, Cara! Shine like the jewel that you are!!!